Variety is the spice of life, they say. And it is certainly true for lovemaking. Every now and then, you need some excitement, some unpredictable move to keep the fire of passion alive. This is not just to keep boredom at bay. An active and interesting sex life will keep any relationship with a woman stable and happy and will increase the level of communication and emotional quotient. Even if it’s a one-off situation where you’re sleeping with someone, it leaves a much better and more lasting impression if you can bring in something new when she is least expecting it. The biggest advantage is that this raises the bar: your sexual partner also goes that extra mile, making the experience pleasurable on both ends.
Many of you might feel self-conscious or feel too settled to make an attempt to change (read: spice up!) things. But it’s very important to let go of that hesitation. Everyone will have their individual prowess and the key to discover it can only lie within oneself. So give that magic a shot!
First things first, sex can’t be planned out in entirety. You can only go so far. So the first tip would be spontaneity. Nothing better than some spontaneous show of appreciation, approval and desire. So let instinct be your guide and turn your passion to heighten the impact of your lovemaking. Once more, this point can’t be stressed enough: don’t let hesitation or awkwardness ruin the moment. The objective is to impress and the first step is to be confident.
Make some effort to try and discover what exactly your sexual partner likes. No, we don’t mean the generalities. Really observe them and figure out what they’re looking for. Make them feel special, with mood lighting, the kind of music that turns them on, good cologne perhaps. After all, the ambiance is everything. In order for the experience to be special, the setting too must be special. Pay all the attention to the little details while lovemaking and we bet she’ll be flattered!
Secret Ingredients to an Unforgettable Experience
Now, coming to our first move, one of the best ways to ensure your woman has a good time is by SURPRISING her. So instead of putting on the same old act, try and keep changing the routine. Keep her guessing what you’ll do next and this will keep the excitement pumping. It doesn’t have to be something elaborate always. Just a little bite or kiss when and where she least expects it will her gasp. Other suggestions would be to modulate your passion: bring in some aggression, but remain tender. Observe what she likes and change your style: nothing’s sexier than an attentive sexual partner.
How to Be a Knockout
Ideally, sex should not become something that’s routine and must be done at regular intervals for the heck of it. In fact, it should be more of a game, something that stimulates and brings forth a rush of adrenaline. As in a game, the idea of a CHASE is all important in sex (remember how all those girls back in high school used to play hard to get?). Whether you like it or not, the idea of foreplay and build up adds appeal to the actual performance and acts as part of the chase. Let’s say it whets the appetite. So don’t be dismissive of foreplay. In fact, give it your most, like it doesn’t even matter if you end up having sex! This will make her curious and also make her want you all the more.
Who’s going to lead?
You may be the pro at this game, but the trick to scoring high is to let HER take the lead. Yes, you heard it right. Why not just submit yourself to her and see how she does things? Your woman will feel pampered and everyone likes being the boss. So while she can have her fantasies, you end up being the hero! At any rate, take turns at doing what you both like. Role-playing, nibbling and partaking in a threesome are very common ways of adding a dash of color to their sex lives. You can do the same or come up with newer ideas. It’s not always a woman who can dress up. Why not surprise her by dressing up like her favorite superhero? It’s all about having a good time, really! On that note, you might often feel like trying out new things and generally experimenting with your sexual partner. This is all very natural. However, men often tend to go off on overkill. So if you’re going to be adventurous, then it’s best to be macho and not just a brute.
There are plenty of articles, books and videos that will tell you about the best sexual positions and the cheesiest pickup lines. But the real trick is to figure her out. Just as a man’s heart is won through his stomach, a woman’s is won by mind games. Make her curious, surprise (or even shock) her and always leave her asking for more…good times lie ahead!