The Feminist Group over the last decade has cried out that there are sexual double standards when it comes to mating. If a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she is called a slut; a man, who does the same thing, should also be shamed, when promiscuous. Political correctness, as what these groups have put forward regarding the equality of the sexes still shows that there are still marked differences between these groups – who may be considered active participants in the sexual marketplace.
Gender Relations and the Sexual Market Place
Studies have shown that an average guy would find seventy percent (70%) of women doable as sexual partners. This would mean that he would sleep with any woman whom he may rank lower than his desired partners, that is ranked from 9 to 10. This would also represent women whom he would not touch in normal circumstances, even when faced with a 10 year sex drought.
On the other side, an average woman would find seventy four percent (74%) of the men as unlikely partners in the sexual marketplace. What the studies have shown is that, getting laid is skewed to the women’s side, as compared to men. The top men however, who are rated 9 and 10 would have a sexual market place that is skewed to them. They would be limited and few in number, whom a lot of women would find sexually attractive – hence, would be rated higher as eventual sexual partners.
Most women are attracted to high quality men of 9’s and 10’s due to their limited number. They would naturally want to date and get laid by these men, who may only be found in a very narrow category. Having sex just for the fun of it is not a girl thing. It is more of a guy thing, with some few exceptions.
The Sexual Disconnect Between Men and Women
The sexual disconnect comes into play, when one realizes that it is not hard for women to have sex, if she wants to. It becomes hard if she targets the top rated men of 9 and 10. Most women would not bed average guys whom they would rate lowly down the ranks. It may seem difficult for women to have sex because they would only want to have it with certain types of men with certain qualities. Men, on the other hand, would not have compunction of sleeping with the majority of women if they want to; but would be faced with strong rejections, if these women don’t see them as qualified enough to have sex with.
This is where the double standard comes into play. A man, who has bedded a woman, would be seen as somebody who has done something extraordinary as compared to a woman who has slept around with a number of regular guys. Men faced larger competition with a smaller pool of women wanting to have sex; as compared with women who have a larger pool of men splaying their hides for them to have sex with. Hence, women who have an easier task of getting laid, will face condemnation – than men who may have a harder time of getting some sexual action. Shaming of girls exists because of these so-called supply and demand factors in the sexual marketplace.
The Emerging Sexual Double Standards
My belief here, is that the existence of sexual double standards may be due to perceived biological differences between men and women. Men normally prefer women who have less sexual experience than they have. Women, on the other hand, would prefer the reverse: and that is, of having men who have more sexual experience than they have. However, a reversing trend is now seen in colleges across the United States. There are now more men who stayed virgins than their women counterparts, with a difference of around 6% in favor of the men. What this says is that women, who may have multiple sex partners poses greater risk of having a shrinking the pool of willing men that would take them seriously – since they may be considered as high risk partners later on by these same men. Studies have also shown that men who have had a number of casual sex partners, would not have that much appreciation for their spouses, as compared to those who may have lesser sexual entanglements. Women, on their own, who may put more value on having men with more sexual experience, are advised to stay out of relationships with highly promiscuous men.
It is my belief that the word ‘slut’ which has been used pejoratively to refer to a sexually promiscuous woman is now used less often. There is now an emerging trend towards social acceptance of sexual promiscuity among men and women. These new trends can often times be attributable to declines in religiosity and scruples against extra-marital sex, emancipation of women, equality in the workplace, and the evolving acceptable mores affecting a highly sexualized culture. At present however, men still remains to have more sexual partners than women, in all countries around the world; and women tend to shy away from casual sexual partners, as a matter of preference.